5 easy steps to Happiness!

5 steps to happiness…

1.  Make More Money

2.  Fall In Love

3.  Get a better Job

4.  Lose more weight

5.  Travel the world!

I’ve heard it more often than I care to count!  So it has to be the formula to Happiness…RIGHT?  I’ll be happy if I lose 20lbs.  I’ll be happy if I go on a 4 week vacation.  I’ll be happy if I make more money or better yet, hit the lotto. I’ll be happy if I was in an amazing relationship or had a better relationship with my family.  I’ll be happy if……

If, what?  Well I’ve got news for you….brace yourself.  IF it hasn’t happend it’s not going to happen!  Tell you what, read some more self help books and see how far it takes you.  If you think that happiness can be created by fixing what makes you unhappy then you will be fixing for the REST         OF              YOUR            LIFE!!

That’s a long time!

Get real people.  Stop wasting time, money, and effort for the pursuit of ever lasting happiness….It doesn’t exist.

I know what your thinking….and NO! I am NOT unhappy.  I’m actually the happiest person in the world.  And I can prove it!

I dont have a lot of money, I can stand to lose 20lbs, I haven’t traveled the world, my relationships aren’t perfect (except for my fiance, he is!), and my job sucks!  and yes I AM HAPPY!

So, you ask how?

I’ve got 5 steps to offer you…and it has nothing to do with psycho babble, self-help terminology, discovering yourself, or re-creating yourself, or changing your view on life.  But, it has everything to do with what’s important, what’s real, and what happiness is….

Now, to know what something is, we have to distinguish what something isn’t. 

Happiness IS NOT an accomplishment

Happiness IS NOT a result of an accomplishment

Happiness IS NOT created

Happiness IS NOT a feeling

Have I lost you yet! Good! Because, every thing you have read thus far is to get you thinking “outside the box”, so that you can really grasp what i’m about to tell you.

What Happiness IS…

Happiness IS a being
Happiness IS a choice
Happiness just IS what it IS

Now to the 5 steps to Happiness…

1. Stop trying to be right all the time. Just stop.
2. LOVE and ACCEPT yourself, your job, your situation, your cirmustance
3. Stop Fixing it, it’s not broken
4. Understand everyones flaws and love them anyway

(if you catch yourself NOT doing any of the above, there will be little happiness and lots of frustration) So Just Do it, It’s not easy, but it works! Oh, and do me a favor, this is extra credit….delete the word “try” from your vocabulary. Any statement that has the word “try” in it is a cop out! Chances are….you’ll never get to where you need to go if you simply just “try”!

Referencing Statement “5. Just Be Happy!” How do you “just be” anything? Well it’s not a secret. You make a conscious CHOICE. Don’t confuse making a choice with making a decision. A desicion weighs out pro’s and con’s, a choice weighs out nothing. A choice is a choosing of anything, the way it is and the way it isn’t. (ex., I chose my fiance and he chose me, the way we aren’t and the way we are) This is a hard philosophy to grasp, but if you really want to get it, you’ll get it. The few people that got it were Ghandi, Buddha, Mother Theresa and the guy who writes the fortune cookies!

I’ve given you the five steps. I didn’t say it would be easy, but it’s not hard either.

Now, go out there and be Happy!

This was written by a professional. I am certified in breathing, living, loving. My degrees are insignificant. My credibility cannot otherwise be proven, and my background in giving advice is 29 years old (minus the years I couldn’t speak or write). My references are available upon request.


4 Responses to “5 easy steps to Happiness!”

  1. Faith Says:

    this is SO true! I love it…just be…


  2. Mom Dale Says:

    Put your spirituality (God) in the mix and you will have everything! “I can do (and have) all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Read Ephesians

  3. Janel Pulley Says:

    I enjoyed your definitions of happiness. I am going to lose some weight and as Bobby McFerrin said, don’t worry, be happy. In addition to that put a smile on your face!

  4. ivee Says:

    I loved that! It was very uplifting! Great job Mel!

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